Therapy, Sex, Relationships

10 Ways to Be Sex Positive

10 Ways to be Sex Positive

As of late being Sex Positive has been dominating my brain waves. Maybe it’s because I have just successfully defended my thesis narrative on the subject or how I have noticed so many people asking me how to be sex positive.


How do you become Sex Positive? Is there a cosmic shift in how you perform and experience sex? I would have to say it’s how you view sex that makes you sex positive.  Below are 10 ways to be sex positive and incorporate it into your life:

1.) Consent should be mandatory and ever present. Consent is a big part of being able to control what happens to you before, during and after sex.

2.) Always being safe while enjoying sex is not only important, but necessary.

3.) Respect: yourself, your partner and others.


4.) Embrace sex! Seeing sex as beautiful is a wonderful thing.

5.) Stay healthy. Health is also an important matter when being sex positive. Getting the proper medical care as well as regular testing for HIV and STIs should be a priority. Knowing your sexual health status, regardless of how many partners you have, is always a positive.

6.) Define sex for yourself. Fulfillment and pleasure are key aspects of what creates a healthy sex life. Knowing what works and what doesn’t work for you is important and gets you the pleasure you are looking for.

7.) Celebrate sexuality and diversity! Sex is a journey. It wont be the same experience for everyone. Some people have a hard time with it, others do not. We have to be open and honest, not only with our partners, but with ourselves about the act of sex. Having open conversations with our sexual partners will allow you to stay safe and get what you are looking for in sex.


8.) Be open. Meaning no judgement, no slut shaming and (no tea) no shade. Just because it doesn’t work for you doesn’t mean it’s wrong.

9.) Call out discriminatory and sexist attitudes. To your friends, to your family, to random people on the street. It’s unacceptable and stunts us all on this road to sexual freedom as human beings.

10.)  Get an education. A good sexual education is a must. It can teach people from a young age about all the aspects of sex. This list encompasses everything that should be discussed and used in a sexual education classes.

Incorporating these items into your love life will not only make your experience of sex better but open the door for open and honest conversations with your partner(s). Good luck and remember to have fun!